The Power of Being "Too Much": Why Taking Up Space Is Your Superpower

Written by: Sian Bitner-Kearney

“You’re too loud.” “You’re too bold.” “You take up too much space.”

How many times have you heard these words? It usually comes packaged with other hits like too ambitious, too emotional, or too confident, as if your existence needs muting to be palatable.

But let’s be real, calling a woman “too much” is just the world’s lazy way of trying to shrink her brilliance. It’s how society quietly says, “Your presence disrupts the status quo.”

Well guess what? That disruption is your superpower.

Being “too much” is how you find your people. It’s how you own your voice, unlock your freedom, and clear the room of anyone who prefers you watered down. You weren’t born to be digestible; you were born to be unforgettable.

Taking Up Space Is a Radical Act

From the time we’re little girls, we’re taught, explicitly and implicitly, to shrink. Sit still. Be polite. Don’t be bossy. Don’t be loud. Don’t make waves. We learned to contort ourselves, physically, emotionally, spiritually, to keep others comfortable.

But here’s the hard truth: It’s not your job to soothe the world at the expense of your worth. Taking up space, in your voice, your body, and your choices isn’t arrogance. It’s alignment.

It’s choosing presence over apology and power over permission and saying: “I will not dilute who I am just to be easier to swallow.”

Lead Loudly, Others Are Watching

When you claim space, you’re not just helping yourself, you’re sending a clear signal to every little girl and woman watching that they can do it too. Every time you walk tall instead of looking down, speak up instead of staying quiet, or wear what makes you feel powerful instead of dressing to make others comfortable, you’re rewriting the rules. And that kind of boldness is contagious.

Fashion: More Than Fabric—It’s Fire

So, what role does fashion play in all this? Think of it as your most loyal co-conspirator. You're the main character, and fashion is your fiercest ally. Together, you’re a walking declaration.

That bold red lip - a battle cry. That oversized blazer or bodycon dress - armor. That print, that color, that unapologetic strut - a language. Fashion is the weapon of the woman who refuses to be silenced, and who chooses to dominate spaces she was once told not to enter. In a world that wants you quiet, pretty, and small, your style responds with a bold, unapologetic “No.”

So, the next time someone tells you to “tone it down,” turn it all the way up! Wear the outfit, say the words, and take up the damn space. You don’t need permission to be powerful. You only need the audacity to do it. And whether you know it or not, you’ve already got plenty of that!